GRADE 8 Social Studies PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIP – Building Self-esteem Notes
PEOPLE & RELATIONSHIPS
Self‑esteem is how you feel about yourself — your value, abilities and how much you respect yourself. It helps you make friends, try new things and solve problems.
Why good self‑esteem matters
- Helps you join activities (sports, scouts, drama) and keep trying even if you fail.
- Makes it easier to say “no” to harmful things like risky peer pressure.
- Helps you build healthy friendships and speak up in class.
- Improves school work and how you feel about the future.
- Tries new things even if nervous.
- Accepts mistakes and learns from them.
- Asks for help when needed.
- Respects others and themselves.
- Avoids joining groups or class activities.
- Often says bad things about themselves.
- Feels sad, shy or scared to try.
- Might be bullied or bully others.
How to build your self‑esteem — simple steps
- Use positive self‑talk: Replace “I can’t” with “I will try.” Try this: say one good thing about yourself each morning (e.g., “I am kind,” “I can learn math”).
- Set small goals: Break tasks into steps. Example: practise football for 15 minutes a day before trying for the school team.
- Celebrate small wins: Passed a test? Helped a friend? Tell yourself “Well done!”
- Learn a skill: Join clubs (choir, scouts, sports) — being part of a group builds confidence.
- Keep a journal: Write three things you did well each day. This helps you remember good things about yourself.
- Help others: Doing small acts (carrying books for an elderly neighbour, helping a classmate) makes you feel useful.
- Choose friends who support you: Spend time with people who encourage and respect you.
Short Kenyan examples
Example 1 — School team: Asha wanted to try out for the netball team but felt nervous. She practised for two weeks, asked the coach for tips and finally tried out. Even though she was shy at first, joining practice helped her feel confident.
Example 2 — Community help (Harambee): Juma helped organise a neighbourhood cleaning day. His family and neighbours praised his work. That praise helped him believe in his ability to lead.
Activities you can do (class/home)
- Mirror praise (2 minutes): Look in the mirror and say two good things about yourself.
- Compliment chain: In class, sit in a circle. Each person gives a kind sentence to the person on their right.
- Goal ladder: Draw a ladder on paper. Write a small goal on the bottom step and how you will reach it on the top. Tick steps as you go.
- Role play: Practice saying “No” politely when someone pressures you to do something you do not want to do.
How friends, parents and teachers can help
- Listen without judging and encourage the young person to try things again.
- Give specific praise (e.g., “You worked hard on that project” instead of only “Good job”).
- Offer chances to lead small tasks (class monitor, team captain) so they can practice.
When to get extra help
If you or a friend feel very sad, stop enjoying activities, or think of harming yourself, tell a trusted adult right away — a parent, teacher, school counsellor or a nearby health centre. It is brave to ask for help.
- Say one positive thing about yourself.
- Try one small challenge.
- Help someone or say a kind word.
Remember: Building self‑esteem takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself — every small step matters. 🌱