CRE: Christian Living Today

Subtopic: Human Sexuality — Responsible Sexual Behavior

What is human sexuality?

Human sexuality is about who we are as boys and girls, our bodies, feelings, and how we relate to others. It includes physical changes (puberty), emotions, values, and how we make choices about relationships and behaviour.

Christian teaching on responsible sexual behaviour

• We see our bodies as gifts from God and temples of the Holy Spirit (treat them with respect).
• Sex is respected and given a special place in marriage — Christians are encouraged to practise purity and self-control.
• Love is patient, kind and respects others (1 Corinthians 13 values): it does not pressure or harm.
• Forgiveness is available when mistakes are made; the church supports healing and wise choices.

Kenyan context — rights and protection

Kenya protects children and young people. Adults should not pressure or force young people into sexual activity. If you feel unsafe, tell a trusted adult, teacher or report to authorities and health services. Your safety and dignity matter.

Changes during puberty (what to expect)

How to behave responsibly

• Choose to wait: many Christians and health workers advise abstaining from sexual activity until marriage or adulthood.
• Respect yourself and others: no pressure, no forcing, and always listen when someone says “no”.
• Make wise friendships: spend time with people who support your values.
• Be honest and seek guidance from parents, teachers, or church youth leaders when unsure.
• Use reliable information: talk to a school nurse or health centre if you have questions about bodies, periods, STIs or pregnancy.

Consent and boundaries

Consent means both people freely agree. If someone says "no" or seems unsure, stop. Respecting boundaries shows love and care. If someone forces you or touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, tell a trusted adult right away.

Dealing with peer pressure — how to say NO

• Practice short, clear responses: "No, I’m not ready," or "No, that’s not for me."
• Use excuses: "I have to go home," or "My parent will be waiting."
• Stick with friends who respect your choices.
• Walk away from risky situations and talk to someone you trust.

If you or a friend are sexually active

It’s important to seek help and information, not to hide. Visit a school nurse, youth-friendly clinic or talk to a trusted adult. Health workers can give confidential advice about pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and support.

(Christian communities and churches also offer counselling and support — you are not alone.)

Simple Choices Flow

Quick checklist for responsible sexual behaviour

• I respect my body and other people’s bodies.
• I do not give in to pressure to do something I am not ready for.
• I talk to a trusted adult about questions or worries.
• I know where to find a school nurse, youth clinic or counsellor.
• I can say "no" clearly and leave risky situations.

A Bible thought and short prayer

Verse: "Love is patient, love is kind..." (1 Corinthians 13:4) — love respects and protects.

Short prayer: Lord, help me make wise choices, respect others, and seek help when I need it. Amen.

Who to talk to (trusted people)

• Parent or guardian
• Teacher, school counselor or headteacher
• Church youth leader or pastor
• School nurse or local health clinic staff
• Police or child protection services if you feel unsafe

Remember: Your body and choices are important. As a Christian, aim to honour God, love others, and protect yourself. Ask, learn and get support when you need it.