Friendship Formation and Peer Influence

Subject: CRE (Christian Religious Education) • Topic: Christian Living • For class age: 10 years (Kenya)

What is a friend?

A friend is someone who cares for you, shares with you, helps you, and tells the truth. Friends make life happier. ☺️

Where we make friends (Kenyan examples)

  • In class and at play during break at school
  • In Sunday school at church
  • At the shopping kiosk, neighbours or at the field when playing football
  • During community events like a church gathering or a school sports day

Good qualities of a friend

Kindness
Helps without being asked. ❤️
Honesty
Tells the truth, even when it is hard. 🤝
Respect
Respects you and your family, and listens. 🙏
Helps you follow Jesus
Encourages you to pray and go to church. ✝️

Peer influence — what it means

Peers are children your age. They can influence you in two ways:

  • Positive influence: Encouraging you to study, pray, share and play fairly. ✅
  • Negative influence: Pressuring you to lie, cheat, fight, or do things your heart says are wrong. ⚠️

Short Bible teaching

The Bible tells us to choose good friends. Proverbs 13:20 says: "Walk with the wise and become wise." (Simple meaning: keep friends who help you do right.)

How to make good friends (easy steps)

  1. Be friendly: say "Jambo!" or "Habari?" and smile. 😊
  2. Share and include others when you play.
  3. Pray for friends and invite them to Sunday school.
  4. Be honest and say sorry when you are wrong.

How to handle bad peer pressure (short phrases)

  • Say "No, I cannot do that." (Firm but kind.)
  • Say "Let me think about it" and walk away.
  • Tell a teacher, parent, or pastor if someone asks you to do wrong.
  • Choose friends who help you obey God and your parents.
Example role-play (to try in class or Sunday school):

Scene: Your friends want you to copy their test answers.
You say: "No, I will try by myself. Please help me study after school instead." ✅

Activity ideas (for teacher, parent, Sunday school)

  • Draw a "Friendship Tree": each leaf has a good quality of a friend.
  • Practice saying "No" in pairs and clap when someone refuses bad pressure.
  • Memory verse game: Proverbs 13:20 — repeat and make actions for each word.

Memory verse (learn this)

"Walk with the wise and become wise." — Proverbs 13:20

Short prayer

"Dear God, help me to choose good friends. Give me courage to do what is right. Amen." 🙏

Quick questions to think about

  1. Who are your three closest friends?
  2. Do they help you obey God and your parents?
  3. What will you do if a friend asks you to do something wrong?
Use these notes in class, at home, or in Sunday school. Talk to a teacher or parent if you need help. God loves you and wants good friends for you. ✝️🇰🇪

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